You cannot outrun trauma or avoid it forever. There will come a day when you have to "break the chain". If you don't, many more of your loved ones - children or grandchildren - will be forced to.
Why didn't our previous generations break the chain? Several reasons including they didn't know it would be transferred to us and, even if they did know, they had no knowledge or resources of how to do so. Heck, most of our own mothers wouldn't have known how. For the first time ever, women have the resources to do this very important, life-saving work at their fingertips - their phone or computer.
That's why the power now belongs to YOU!
WE are the generational that can STOP the trauma from continuing to live on.
That's the great news!
The not-so-great news is that there are no easy answers and it requires intense intervention and strong supports. Knowing you are not alone and that there were likely factors outside of your control can help you break the chain, redefine yourself, and reclaim your life.
Long before science proved the trauma of one generation impacts the expression of genes in the following generation, folklore gave us the language of “family curses” and ancient religious traditions taught the idea of children suffering for the wrongdoing of parents. These ideas fell out of popularity when the 1600’s brought the Age of Enlightenment, and “respectable thought” moved away from folklore towards hard sciences. However, now that science is confirming the intuitive wisdom of the past, will we listen for the places where intuition might illuminate our human experience in spaces that science has yet to explore?
The CDC’s study uncovered a stunning link between childhood trauma and the chronic diseases people develop as adults, as well as social and emotional problems. This includes heart disease, lung cancer, diabetes and many autoimmune diseases, as well as depression, violence, being a victim of violence, and suicide. They showed that there is a direct link between childhood trauma and adult onset of chronic disease, as well as depression, suicide, being violent and a victim of violence; that the more types of trauma increased the risk of health, social and emotional problems, and that people usually experience more than one type of trauma – rarely is it only sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse. In those with four or more traumas, the risk of lung diseases increases nearly 400%, depression by 470%, hepatitis by 250% and there is a 1220% increase in suicide attempts.
At the same time there is vast research by Harvard and Rockefeller University neuroscientists, pediatricians, and child psychiatrists proved that the toxic stress damages the structure and function of a child’s developing brain. When children are overloaded with stress hormones, they can’t learn in school, develop trust issues that affect the ability to form healthy relationships with peers so they become lones. These same children often turn to smoking, alcohol, or drugs so relieve their anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, and/or inability to focus. To further help them escape their problems, they may engate in high-risk sports, emotional eating, risky sex, or even become over-achievers and workaholics. There is further research to prove that chronic stress leads to problems with inflammation which leads to other types of disease. Toxic stress can be passed down from generation to generation.
Choosing to accept the assignment of Breaking the Chain is the highest form of praise, compassion, and self-love that you can have for yourself. It is also the deepest form of compassion you can give your ancestors.
One of the biggest misconceptions about ancestral healing (breaking the chain) is that we can do it alone. You can't. No matter how hard you try.
That's why our program is so powerful. In order to successfully break the chain, you must have a strategic method in which your ancestors can take responsibility for their pain and unprocessed wounds... the ones they passed onto you that are not requiring you to detach from. It takes commitment, consistency, and willing vulnerability.
Commitment: to be the change, life your life differently, honor where you came from, show up and stand in that authority, and break that chain. You have to willing to commit to being the CHOSEN ONE in your family that hears and honors the calling to do this, no matter how challenging it can be.
Consistency: to carve out time in your busy day to complete the powerful steps and follow the specifics of our program. Time commitment is different in each step but can be as little as 20 minutes per day.
Willing vulnerability: is required for both you and your ancestors. You must be willing to do this with their help. You must be willing to remember their songs, dance, potency, freedom, power, and yes, even the troubling, embarrassing, and painful events they may have been responsible for. You will be vulnerable enough to face head-on that which comes down from the women and men in your lineage. This is key because it will pull the family members of the past to you who are also ready to release their pain.
Although our BREAK THE CHAIN is a genetic detox program that offers the same steps for everyone, the actual findings during these steps and all that is revealed are vastly unique to each client. Yet, there are some universal themes that tend to occur for most: socioeconomic distress and privileges, identities we've all forgotten and disconnected from, shame and guilt that prevents us from being genuine and whole, and no matter how great our intentions... as much as we want to experience love... the past of our ancestors is affecting our present.
Until we go back, we cannot go forward. Until we reclaim our lineage and apply that knowledge in a new way, we will keep repeating the same patterns for generations.
Regardless of our identity, we have the same core wounds around belonging, abandonment, safety, love, dreams and desires. Although we have the same wounds, our story is different and the way the intersection between us and our ancestors is what creates the depth and complexity of the healing process - the genetic detox. Symptoms of anxiety, depression, anger, hatred, suicidal ideations, addictions, broken relationships, violence, imposter syndrome, resentment, and so much more are the bigger wounds that run through everyone's lineage and show up in our life today. This is what needs to be healed.
Are you ready to connect with your ancestors so you can BREAK THE CHAIN and complete the genetic detox?